I am an intuitive healer. Part of what that means is, I sense what may help to to promote healing. I actually sit and consciously ask what my subject should be today.I will sometimes be visited by spirits or angels that will encourage a particular subject, right down to a name of the person that needs to hear the information. One of my commitments that I have made with this web site is to reach out to as many people as possible. Providing them with insight and comfort that will hopefully result in better health. As you read this, there will be some of you that will be grateful for the words on this page. I write these words with purpose each time for that one or many that need encouragement on any given day.
The subject I would like to talk about is the "I shoulds" that we tell ourselves every day. Those two little words that can twist your insides up in knots like our parents scolding us after a night of drinking when we were 16. Right? I should clean the house, I should settle down, I should be happy with my life, I should have enough energy to be super mom, I should be in a real relationship, I should go to church on sunday, on and on it goes.Some of those words are our own, just part of our innate make up to beat ourselves up.Some are gentle reminders that we do need to change some things in our lives. Others are our old beliefs that do not fit anymore.Sometimes our old patterns need a reboot. They can be so deeply rooted we don't have the slightest idea that it just does not fit anymore. This affects all the major parts of our lives. Marriage/or lack of, religion, sex, food, body image and work to name a few. A really good analogy is.....When we continue to try to fit into the wrong size pants for too long they begin to make us uncomfortable, We wake up one morning to find they just don't fit right. They squeeze us in places that they did not before, make visible red lines on our skin and bulge in the wrong places.We may become self conscious about how we appear to others in these to tight pants.We start to unbutton the first button to breath easier. Finally, we put them on the shelf where the other cast off clothes live that are just not right for us any more. Saving them because they might be useful in the future.The clothes that we take out occasionally and think we may be able to benefit by wearing them again.We try them on just one more time, see if they fit differently this time. Only to find that they still make us feel like crap when we are in them.Then finally when we surrender to the fact they just don't suit us anymore, we let them go forever.
It is exactly the same for old beliefs. The whole process. How we notice they do not fit anymore, notice how others perceive the changes in us, notice it becomes impossible to continue believing something that, in our guts we know is not right for us.Why do we do it? Struggle so much. Notice your response on a daily basis to your relationships that don't fit, jobs that make us miserable, mortgages that cripple us, all the things everyday we force ourselves to do. We wear them like ill fitting underwear that gives up a prominent wedgie.Finally when we do recognize that we need to make a change we start the process of reevaluating our beliefs in that area of our lives. We will still go back a few times to try on those old pants/beliefs to see if they fit especially in times that we feel weak and lonely.Eventually stepping into something new and more comfortable for good.Then we can breath easily with no embarrassing undone top button to cover with your shirt.
Growing up, there are some things that were expected. Then as life goes on wemake statements in our heads that shape our lives and what we expect of ourselves. They unconcously become embedded as our solidified beliefs. We do things that we wish we had not and again and again, making statements to the contrary at ourselves about what we should do next time.Do you sit down when you feel a change coming on and decide if you should hold on to the beleive that shapes that pattern of behavior.Have you ever rebel against yourselve to the extreme because you can not simply allow ourselves to change your mind about what is right or wrong for you.A good example is all of us who have been married, had children and are now divorced.We grew up knowing getting married and having children was what you do.Now, many of us are reevaluating what is right or wrong for us at this point in our lives.
I challenge you to make a block of time to sit alone and think about this. Write down what feels uncomfortable in your life at the moment. Review your life since you were a child and really think about your belief system for each challenge you are facing. If you find that your beliefs are different now. Define your old belief system and then rewrite the same subject with a new improved definition that fits your life now.Allow yourself to be open and forgiving of yourself, you may be surprised at how it feels.Almost like a duplicity of your new more open self verses an antiquated version that may resemble a disgruntled parent.We tend to judge ourselves harshly. Its time to grow and allow room for gentleness in your discovery of yourselves.
In my practice I use a guided imagery for this. If you visualize Lilly Tomlin as the old phone operator. Sitting at her desk pulling one cord from its receiver and placing it in another to connect the calls.For those of you who have no idea who Lilly Tomlin is here is a video. www.youtube.com/watch?v=k9e3dTOJi0o lol.You can imagine your old belief as the first connection, for instance "I will let go of the old belief that... life is not easy and you always have to work your ass off to get what you need ." Then plug it into a new connection acknowledging that "My new belief is.We are meant to be happy .... a balance of hard work and gratitude for what we already have will help us manifest all that we desire in life." Say this to yourself with love and acceptance. Then let it sink in for a few days. You will notice that situation around the subject that you addressed with become easier and much less upsetting.You will be less tolerant of yourself when you try to go back to the closet to put on those ill fitting pants! Eventually it will just become a new way you approach yourself and that subject.Throwing out the old pants and enjoying the freedom of something that fits perfectly.
Just a side note. With this subject in mind, it can be applied to our children and their beleifs. Their beleif may be different than ours, but not nessesarily wrong. Allow yourselfs to change your minds about your stuff. With intention decide what is right or wrong for you, This process will help you be more sensitive to others need to change. As I start to form this thought, the spirit that has guided me to write about the subject is creating such electricity in my hand I cry out. I need tell her to stop as I laugh, happy that I finally express the perfect spirit driven message. The sensation stops right away, thank goodness. Sometimes we just need to let go of old beleifs and leave a empty space for new ideas to come to the surface. Holding that empty space as an open invitation for deeper understand of your own needs. Then listen to your inner guidence...... you always know what you need, but sometimes thats what scares you the most!
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My name is Christina Laughton. I live in the country in NC. I have made it a long standing practice study ways to achieve health and peace in life through allowing your true self to be seen. I have fostered many unusual abilities such as seeing, hearing and sensing the usually unseen. Then finding the understanding of how to apply this to your life, to bring a balance to your mind, body and spirit. When in alignment with yourself you will always bring healing to all parts of your life.