Death, transition, leaving our beloved bodies behind.... everyone does it. We have to, we do not get a choice in the matter. Some of us think about it as far off, some long for it, and some are scared shit of it happening at any moment. Why don't we talk about it more? Why don’t we prepare for it until we are forced to face our own mortality with age and illness? Have you ever noticed , if you bring it up in conversation most peoples eyes glaze over with the hoping that the subject finishes quickly? When we do talk about it in our healthy years, it is usually when religion is involved. True? How maybe we are going to Heaven if we are good, Hell if we are bad, just worm food if we do not believe in a god, or maybe to a place where there are levels like a video game, each time moving up a level. It all sounds like crazy talk, obscure and fantasy like, does it not? Who knows? No one truly knows what happens. There is only one thing we know for sure, we all get to have the death experience, why not do it with our eyes and heart wide open
With that in mind, shouldn’t we do more with this opportunity? There are a few things that everyone has to do.... be born, eat, poop, pee, and sleep. If any of those things don’t function properly we do whatever we need to do to make it work. There is information everywhere about how to do all those things the best way possible. Well, what about death, what about that very necessary function that everybody has to perform. I have been thinking about this a lot lately and have come to the conclusion that I want to come up with a plan for the living to prepare for death of our body. Long before it is going to happen. Truthfully, we do not know when that day will come. I feel it is the lucky ones that have a heads up, at least they are forced to prepare and hopefully contemplate the details. We make birth plans all the time. I think we should make death plans. Not about what we want to happen in an emergency or how we want our remains handled, that’s talk for another day. I am talking about creating an exit plan and becoming familiar with it. Confront your fear and consciously make a choice about the moment you stop breathing. We may not know where we are going or if we are all going to the same place as our neighbor. But, I do believe we can wake up at the moment of death and be aware of the situation we are in and be conscious of needing to make choices at that moment.
With the work that I do I have witnessed several scenarios that happen when our body dies. I have seen some gracefully leave and have no problems moving to a peaceful and nurturing place. Other times I have witnessed a definite stuckness (yup, not a word, but I can make up words if I want to :-0) in the moment right after death of confusion and sometimes a re-living of the tragedy almost as if it happened too fast and they don’t understand they have left their body. It is not always how you think it would go. I have seen suicides that peacefully crossover with relief, elderly people of 90 still scared of dying so much they could not eat with the sheer stress of that moment coming and violent deaths that even with an angel escort refuses to leave because she wanted to catch the people that hurt her (ignorant of her own death.) We stay, we go, we are clear of our destination, we have escorts, we are scared, or we are hopeful for a better place at the end.
Another factor are the people who remain here to miss the departed loved one. The pain and suffering that we go through after they are gone. From my experiences I can assure you when we suffer here in this earthly place, they feel our suffering. They know what we are going through. They are also affected by how we remember them. I have more than a couple times been told by the departed that they wanted their families to stop concentrating on the way they died and remember who they were before that experience. This usually happens when there is a violent death. The family remembers them as being in the wrong place at the wrong time and poor uncle Charlie was shot in the head caught in the crossfire at the local gas station. A child that was hit by a drunk driver or a daughter that was murdered for information she knew. It is very important to assist them in their healing after they leave. Focus on them reaching their destination. Focus on the positive aspects of their lives and the love that you have for them. Do not focus on the illness and the tragedy. Just as we need assistance coming into the world. We need assistance leaving. Think about the birth process. We nurture the fetus from conception to birth for 9 months. We as mothers endure and hopefully remain positive for that little baby as it grows to give it the best chance for a healthy birth. Let’s concider leaving the body just as important as coming into the world and figure out how to handle that situation with love and support.
Next time I will touch upon ways to go about opening the door to a conscious death. Let’s talk about ways to support our loved ones in their travels after leaving the body. Come on now; don’t let your fear scare away this idea. Its proactive and thought provoking at the least. Time for me to say goodnight. I hope you all have a blessed and relaxing day.
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My name is Christina Laughton. I live in the country in NC. I have made it a long standing practice study ways to achieve health and peace in life through allowing your true self to be seen. I have fostered many unusual abilities such as seeing, hearing and sensing the usually unseen. Then finding the understanding of how to apply this to your life, to bring a balance to your mind, body and spirit. When in alignment with yourself you will always bring healing to all parts of your life.